I Want to Eat Your Fingers

Catchy title huh? I remember writing a post like 4 months ago about 'cheating', basically because I found out that my ex-boyfriend cheated on me (multiple times). Because of my own experiences, I find it impossible to give someone advice on anything damn near the topic of love because I'm a stupid bitch when it comes to be my turn. However, I love talking about the topic and recently, a specific issue has caught my eye.

"Love Doesn't Come in Shapes, so why am I in a Triangle?"

IDK, if you've ever watched True Life: I'm in a Love Triangle, but doesn't it seem silly that someone can be in love with two people. Usually because their stuck in the present, at a crossroad, between their past and future? Baffles the mind doesn't it. My opinion is basically this: you have to have the balls to take chances. The only dilemma is, do you take a chance with your past or take a chance with your potential future. Let's explore our options.

THE PAST

"I love my ex...can't live with them.....I swear we're going to get married.....He/She doesn't love them......He thinks about me 24/7" While this may be true. This is a lead reason why alot of us, especially females, tend to get caught up on our past/ex. Why is it that we can't just treat them like any other dead beat and ignore their calls and texts? Ofcourse, you must consider things like memories such as pictures, videos, artifacts, ya know like small shit. To make matters worst, when you begin talking to your ex again its like you put any little argument or form of animosity aside and place your self on cloud 9 again. Your ex will always have priority indirectly in your life. Don't even front! Don't lie like you've never compared someone you care about to your ex. We all do it. It's like they automatically get placed above anyone until you've TRULY moved on. But let's place you in the scenario that your talking to your former boo and its like your in the motions of getting back together, that triggers something in the brain that puts you back in time when you guys were happy together. This causes you to rehash those feelings, and begin sitting in class drawing your first name and their last name (or vice versa) like yall are getting married tomorrow.

Getting back with your ex can be tricky though. Why did you guys break up? What about him pisses you off? When did you stop liking them? When did they stop liking you? What did you do to contribute to the breakup? While you guys called it truce cause you started talking again...how do you know for sure things won't go back to the way they once were? On the flip side, you two know each other on a completely different level than anyone else. A bond that is not easily broken. The beauty with love, is that it never ceases to exist. IT only gets greater through experience and triumph. So...dating your ex could mean a more mature relationship. It's always a risk.

THE FUTURE

You meet someone that like "oh my god, im so in love", cause their buying out the bar for you. YES. Thats like the best thing in the world. You meet someone who is all that plus a bag of chips. No one can tell you anything. But honestly, your taking yet another big risk. How do you know they arent the devil? That all this puppy love, facebook status tagging, cute little pictures is all an illusion until you fuck up once and see their evil twin? But ofcourse! You have your lessons that you've learned from your ex to help you deal with situations, right? Meaning you are this new, mature, lovely human being who is ready to love again. So do you take a chance with the new person?

hmm...love triangles. Sometimes you have to use logic, cause thinking with your heart got you in this case in the first place. Yes its hard but either way your gonna have sleepless nights with any be it your ex or the latter. You better find their loving, THEY better find your heart.

Dr. Love: To Cheat or Not to Cheat

I am not one for creating newsletters, editorials, or basically unnecessary essays but this nuisance slash huge issue in Love needs to be addressed by yours truly.

WHAT IS CHEATING IN LOVE?

I mean you all know what cheating is. It's just like cheating on a test. Your getting all the answers and solutions from someone else other than your 'own'. Cheating is just something we don't do. It gives both parties to be mad at each other. For guys, it allows them to have a reason to call their female counterpart nothing short of a whore. For girls it allows our weave to get out of whack because we trash our room after we find out our boyfriend's infidelity. Cheating can be seen also as a way for one to get just about every pleasure in the world. Not to say we should not enjoy life and all it has to offer but other learn that lesson very slowly in a sense that they choose to enjoy this opportunity by dipping in just about every sauce the world has to offer. :-)

IS IT A SCAPE GOAT?
It is indeed. It's the easy way out unfortunately. Instead of stepping up to the plate and confronting growing issues in the relationship, people feel as if they can get the "answers" and solution to the disappearance of their happiness from someone who can offer it in that moment. I like to think of it as instead of saving up for a nice 5 star dinner and really savoring luxury, they settle for a quick number one that can satisfy their needs at that moment. Therefore, it's a scape goat because we as humans are too afraid to confront our emotions.

WHAT SHE DOESNT KNOW WON'T KILL HER...
Umm yes it will. I mean if you have ever heard of the saying "all things done in the dark come to light" you will see that even if you are King Cheater IV, your reign will come to an end because she will soon find out. No one...likes to open a can of whoop-ass on a mistake that you made. Women are the bearers of emotion and it is our job to soak up what emotion men can not contain. Since we are so tempermental it's doing us a horrible favor of breaking our hearts. However, this goes for men as well because since they don't know how to process emotion, it is almost unknown as to how they can react which is where a lot of danger lies.

THE RELATIONSHIP IS BORING
I'm not going to say much on this, on account of the fact that my fingers hurts but look:

If you love her...you need to know that you have no reason to cheat no matter how "bof" she is. If you can't see them with anyone else but you, this is your call to arms to bring your relationship back to the day you fell in love with them. And if you REALLY are not happy then you have to break it to them that "honey it ain't working". I know...it sounds simple in writing but you have to emotion conscious in relationships and that is the bottom line.

hope this helps?
email me at mica.j0511@yahoo.com for questions..

I should probably take the log out of my eye before I help anyone with their problems but if it truly put your senses in a clearer light, then by all means keep it coming!

-Mica

NOTE TO SELF: JUST SAY NO