Catchy title huh? I remember writing a post like 4 months ago about 'cheating', basically because I found out that my ex-boyfriend cheated on me (multiple times). Because of my own experiences, I find it impossible to give someone advice on anything damn near the topic of love because I'm a stupid bitch when it comes to be my turn. However, I love talking about the topic and recently, a specific issue has caught my eye.
"Love Doesn't Come in Shapes, so why am I in a Triangle?"IDK, if you've ever watched True Life: I'm in a Love Triangle, but doesn't it seem silly that someone can be in love with two people. Usually because their stuck in the present, at a crossroad, between their past and future? Baffles the mind doesn't it. My opinion is basically this: you have to have the balls to take chances. The only dilemma is, do you take a chance with your past or take a chance with your potential future. Let's explore our options.
THE PAST"I love my ex...can't live with them.....I swear we're going to get married.....He/She doesn't love them......He thinks about me 24/7" While this may be true. This is a lead reason why alot of us, especially females, tend to get caught up on our past/ex. Why is it that we can't just treat them like any other dead beat and ignore their calls and texts? Ofcourse, you must consider things like memories such as pictures, videos, artifacts, ya know like small shit. To make matters worst, when you begin talking to your ex again its like you put any little argument or form of animosity aside and place your self on cloud 9 again. Your ex will always have priority indirectly in your life. Don't even front! Don't lie like you've never compared someone you care about to your ex. We all do it. It's like they automatically get placed above anyone until you've TRULY moved on. But let's place you in the scenario that your talking to your former boo and its like your in the motions of getting back together, that triggers something in the brain that puts you back in time when you guys were happy together. This causes you to rehash those feelings, and begin sitting in class drawing your first name and their last name (or vice versa) like yall are getting married tomorrow.
Getting back with your ex can be tricky though. Why did you guys break up? What about him pisses you off? When did you stop liking them? When did they stop liking you? What did you do to contribute to the breakup? While you guys called it truce cause you started talking again...how do you know for sure things won't go back to the way they once were? On the flip side, you two know each other on a completely different level than anyone else. A bond that is not easily broken. The beauty with love, is that it never ceases to exist. IT only gets greater through experience and triumph. So...dating your ex could mean a more mature relationship. It's always a risk.
THE FUTUREYou meet someone that like "oh my god, im so in love", cause their buying out the bar for you. YES. Thats like the best thing in the world. You meet someone who is all that plus a bag of chips. No one can tell you anything. But honestly, your taking yet another big risk. How do you know they arent the devil? That all this puppy love, facebook status tagging, cute little pictures is all an illusion until you fuck up once and see their evil twin? But ofcourse! You have your lessons that you've learned from your ex to help you deal with situations, right? Meaning you are this new, mature, lovely human being who is ready to love again. So do you take a chance with the new person?
hmm...love triangles. Sometimes you have to use logic, cause thinking with your heart got you in this case in the first place. Yes its hard but either way your gonna have sleepless nights with any be it your ex or the latter. You better find their loving, THEY better find your heart.
